The 8th House is the spookiest sector of your astro-chart. Oh well, that’s arguable. I guess anywhere where Pluto is placed could count as well. The 8th house is akin to Scorpio/Plutonic energy.

It’s traditionally associated with (and this in alphabetical order straight from my Rulership Book) astral experiences, autopsies, collection of debts, executions, genitals, graveyards, heirlooms, hemorrhoids, hidden things, life after death, life force, mysticism, occult matters, passion, rebirth, rectum, reincarnation, sex, the soul, venereal disease & wills.

In ye olden days, people with crowded 8th houses would get a shocking schtick from astrologers way less open-minded & tolerant than we are today.

Strong 8th house types (people with the Sun, Moon or a plethora of planets in the 8th) are super-strong extremophiles. They are often drawn to extreme environments; emergency rooms, brothels, being a depth psychiatrist, whistle-blowers, undercover detectives…They have huge powers of regeneration, secrets and strong e.s.p. re any of the above matters.

Look to your 8th house to see how you are tenacious & psychic, sexy & a survivor. Mars, Pluto, Aries, Scorpio and Capricorn all have affinity with the 8th house.

On the most shallow level, if you – or someone you are interested in – has a loaded 8th house, sex is like a super-important primal drive, all chakras a go-go. Ignore or diminish that & well, this ain’t someone who’ll stick around just for the thrill of bickering in Ikea with you.

https://mysticmedusa.com/2009/03/the-eerie-8th-house/

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We have to admit that we’re all a little in love with the outer planets. We love to read about them, like young girls reading teen magazines and emailing one another about the latest heartthrob. They’re the glamour boys of the group. They’re the movie stars, bigger than life and just as inaccessible. Flamboyant, careless, powerful, they push us around and we don’t mind very much—until something truly awful happens.

Of all the glamour boys, Neptune has got to be the most deadly. We’re a little frightened of Pluto, who behaves a bit like some gangster, the Humphrey Bogart or Cagney of the group. We might be in love with him, but he might shoot us dead, too, if we get out of line, so we know we’d better be careful around him. Uranus is the wacky genius, the unbalanced freak, the steely alien, the misfit who fascinates us. He’s electric and exciting, but he might abandon us tomorrow, so we take what comes and hope for the best (If you think this isn’t attractive, think again. Think Doctor Who and any role Johnny Depp has ever played.) Now Neptune…

The danger of Neptune is that we never see him coming, and once he weaves his spell, we can’t find our way out. In the beginning, we don’t mind—and then it’s too late. Pluto and Uranus both can cut us abruptly; we leave wounded, squashed, maybe, burnt up and out, but with our brains intact. Neptune doesn’t stop until we reach absolute bottom, and it often takes us a while before we know we’re there. Neptune never demands, never asks for surrender; he seduces us into surrendering of our own volition. Low whispers of promise, of bliss, of perfection. Neptune tells us that all our troubles will be gone, and will never return, as long as he’s around. Neptune is the answer to the question that you didn’t know you were asking, but now that it’s answered, everything feels strangely complete. Neptune weaves himself around us until we don’t know where we end and Neptune begins. And then he seduces the ultimate surrender from us, beyond heart and mind. He seduces our soul. Under Neptune’s spell we become one with the all, all experiencing, all knowing, all feeling. We drown, and we release the burden of ourselves, our egos, our consciousness. This is otherwise known as death.

Neptune-Strong Charts

Those of us who live with a heavy Neptune influence can have Neptunian periods where we veer between ecstasy and despair. This see-sawing can be about things spiritual, relationship-oriented, creative, or psychological. We can experience utter bliss and oneness one week, and the next fall into the Neptunian trap of ‘nothing matters.’ This isn’t a variation on manic-depression, but to do with the fact that our perceptions wax and wane with the Neptunian influence. Ironically, it’s often when we’re most in touch with Neptune that we feel most clear. We often live in the grey area between the manifest and the unmanifest worlds, because Neptune alters our perceptions of the way the world is put together. Neptune allows us to see and feel things non-Neptunians do not. (Neptune is always somewhere in the chart. Wherever it falls, we have a higher sensitivity, we see beyond the walls.) When we follow our instincts in unlikely directions, it’s often because we have more underlying information. However, if our decisions are not soul-based (for the good of all) but ego-based (for the good of me only), these excursions are doomed to failure. Neptune has no time for the greedy ego, and when Neptune is in high gear, a me-based life with no service involved will ultimately lead to the worst punishment of Neptune, the loss of Self.

One of the most deadly things about Neptune is the way he can convince us of the illusion of perfection. Wherever he falls, wherever he rules, we have to learn to live with a degree of longing.

Neptunians never feel complete. It’s been called ‘divine discontent.’ (I forgot who coined the phrase, but surely it was one of the romantic poets. If not, they should have.) Divine discontent is a ‘happy face’ phrase slapped on Neptunian longing, the creative force behind an eternal restlessness, a hunger for divinity, impossible to assuage by the very fact of incarnation in this world. Incarnation is all about boundaries, and Neptune doesn’t like to be trapped inside. Divine discontent has been responsible for all the creative product in the world. It is one of Neptune’s main functions as the higher octave of Venus. It connects our smaller selves with the greater, and inspires us to make something of our visions.

But this same longing for (unattainable) completion is what pulls Neptunians towards addictions, which can include being addicted to a relationship. Addictions dissolve the boundaries of the ego; we fall into false completion, false bliss. As the ego sheds its worldly responsibilities, we want nothing but bliss. The jettisoning of the separate Self, and all the real-life and spiritual responsibilities associated with it, can be as intoxicating as a drug.

Neptune in Synastry

In synastry, this false bliss can take the form of another human being. We need this person. We have no life without this person. This person is everything I’ve ever craved, and will ever crave. Fortunately, experienced Neptunians learn to recognize the danger signs (dependency, loss of self, excuse-making, obsessive fascination) and after a while, know what to look out for. Those who don’t struggle with Neptune on a daily basis can be his worst victims. They get taken by surprise.

I have to admit that in all my years of doing synastries, I’ve seen Neptune cause the most outright suffering. Now, this could be because of resonance. I believe we attract clients whose issues match our knowledge and experience. So I attract more Neptune-oriented folks than most. Neptune has a dangerous proclivity to urge us to lose ourselves in a well of grief for the unattainable, making life itself seem futile. I don’t know what’s worse, having the dream and then losing it, or having the dream of a dream.

Neptune in synastry allows us to fool ourselves. Is he really the embodiment of perfection? Is she someone I can’t live without? No. That’s just a story Neptune is telling us, but the story is so effective, so real, so orchestrated to our own particular psychic kinks, that we believe in it totally. Neptune is the best director of all time, making a movie just for us.

One thing to keep in mind when dealing with Neptune in synastry is the fact that, when we are betrayed by others, we have really been betraying ourselves. What within us has been kept blind by Neptune’s spell, allowing us to be deceived? We are not victims. Neptune’s famous illusion has a purpose—it is orchestrated precisely to reveal our blind spots to us. Often, these blind spots are covering things we would rather not see: abuse, neglect, abandonment. The reenactment of these patterns when Neptune is part of the synastry picture forces us to revisit the terror, because our blind spots are preventing our proper connection with the world around us.

The trick to living with Neptune, either natally or in synastry, is to keep yourself anchored. You can’t let the waves carry you out to sea. You have to know when to pull back, when to keep separated. You have to have something heavy and real and of the earth (some Saturn, perhaps) to sink into Neptune’s belly and keep him and you in place. You need the sky above you to keep you rational so you know where you are. And you need some instinctual fire to read the signs and tell you when a storm is brewing up and you need to get the hell out of there before you drown. When worse comes to worst, the answer is almost always in Virgo. Just do something useful. Something real.
Neptune and the Inner Planet Person

Common knowledge says that in synastry, the person who has the Neptune will put the spell on the person who has the inner planet. Frankly, I haven’t seen this. I have to say that I’ve seen more of it the other way around, that it’s the Neptune person who gets enchanted by the inner planet person. Certainly at first. The complications of the inner planet person come later in the relationship, when they can’t get a handle on where the Neptune person is coming from. I have to say that this is true especially in the case of oppositions. In these cases in particular, the Neptune energy gets projected onto the planet, and its fueled by the fact that the planet is on Neptune’s polarity point. That planet embodies something that Neptune needs to learn, to become. The person embodies that lesson, along with the illusion of completion. The fascination is inevitable. This occurs even with lesser hard aspects, but the opposition is the potent one, followed by the square.

Early on, when we’re young, life with Neptune can be torture. Over and over again, we hunger for what is inaccessible, and it’s unbearable. We fall in love with gay people, married people, famous people, and we fall hard. We yearn for lives that we will never have. We pray to focus our energies, on something, anything, that will give us fulfillment, and it never comes (at least, not in the way that we expect). Later on, after we’ve had a bit of reality thrown at us … no, wait … later on life with Neptune is a struggle, too. But it becomes easier when we learn that we can have some of the things that Neptune promises us (even some bliss). Eventually, we learn that the secret of surviving Neptune is in keeping the heart wide open, as frightening as that might be after a Neptune episode. We are tempted to shut Neptune out of our lives, and that is the most dangerous thing of all. When we do, we live lives without magic, without the thrill of seeing our hopes, wishes and dreams (yes, with hard work) become reality. Without Neptune, we feel cut off from the possibilities the universe affords us. Still, we have to keep a very steely eye on that hypnotic bastard or he’ll weave that stupid spell again and the waves of goo will pull back and we’ll find ourselves stranded out in the middle of the desert of nowhere (again), forced to feel our way home via an unfamiliar landscape. No wonder Neptune feels he has to seduce us—he doesn’t believe that any of us would go to him willingly.
Neptune’s Rewards

Neptune’s rewards are not really physical. Not like the rewards that come with Saturn work, or the benefit of using your Mars or Mercury to maximum effect. But working with Neptune does come with benefits.

Ironically, clarity is one of them. When Virgo discrimination is applied to Neptune, the fog lifts, and we are inspired. We can see things we’ve never seen before, create things we never thought possible, and yes, even feel states of consciousness we’ve never felt. We realize that bliss, joy and oneness are possible in this world. Neptune allows us to see past the illusion of our Earthly boundaries and realize that the ultimate boundary, the schism between “I” and the universe itself, is an illusion. Neptune teaches us that whatever affects one affects the All.

In synastry, Neptune can give us great compassion. It can even give us empathy, if we push our own egos out of the way. Neptune can allow us to cherish our partners and forgive them their flaws, because we are all too aware of our own. Neptune allows us to know our partners intimately, and to allow our partners to know us. Neptunian trust is the bravest and highest form of trust, because we don’t allow ourselves an out. We give ourselves over entirely and willingly, because we know that, no matter what happens, we will survive. Neptune allows us to see divinity in the beauty of another, in a gesture, in a whisper. It allows us to live hand in hand with a higher power, and surrender with grace, in full knowledge of what we are doing.
Neptune and Beauty

The most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen on this Earth, and I say ‘thing’ deliberately, because I’m including sunsets and mountains and leopards and paintings and anything else of this world, was another human being. Not anyone I know. He was standing near me on a London street. The light caught him in a gentle halo, and I actually let out a quiet gasp, stunned that anything so beautiful could be formed from the random chaos of the world. I walked away, a bit shaken, but convinced that something in me had been opened, altered. End of story. (I’m a double Virgo, you didn’t think there was going to be a Neptunian finish here, did you?)

I’ve been around for a while now, have done a lot of things, seen a lot of things, and am not easily impressed. I was humbled by my reaction, by my susceptibility; there is something about beauty that makes pilgrims of us all. Neptune allows us to be awed, and that’s the crack that lets the light in. It brings us to our knees. What was altered in me that day? I still don’t know. That’s Neptune for you. Something to do with having faith in the creative powers of the universe. Something to do with abundance. Something to do with the pure joy of living.

But that’s my Neptune journey, my personal navigation through the manifest and unmanifest worlds, towards a realignment with the magical unknown. Yours will be different.

http://sasstrology.com/2010/12/synastry-studies-navigating-neptune.html

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In the movie Pretty Woman — the modern Cinderella story — business mogul Edward tries to strike up a deal with prostitute Vivian to keep seeing her when he comes to town. She turns him down, telling him he isn’t offering enough. Like a true businessman, he continues to negotiate, asking her what she wants. She replies, “I want the fairy tale.” When Edward doesn’t provide it, Vivian leaves with a tear in her eye, but knows she’s doing the right thing. She, a career hooker, wouldn’t cheapen the love she feels for this man by succumbing to the lure of mere dollar and cents. Despite the divide in professions, education and socio-economic class, Vivian feels there should be no less between them than Edward offering her the glass slipper and making her his princess. Through the Neptunian lens of the movies, we have the perfect example of how Neptune operates in the Seventh House of Partnerships.

The native with Neptune in the Seventh House has high ideals and high expectations when it comes to partnerships. Love is the grand expression of true, breathtaking romance. The object of the native’s affection is royalty, regardless of her friends or family’s opinions on the matter. In fact, it doesn’t matter at all if her lover is an actual toad. With a kiss, Neptune performs his most profound magic, and all is as it should be.

Or is it? Neptunian waters are tricky to navigate. Beneath the placid beauty of ocean waters lapping onto a sandy beach is a whole down-and-dirty ecosystem of predators and prey. Unless the Seventh House Neptune native is fearlessly honest regarding what is real and what is an expression of her desires, reality — when it does hit –- is not just a slap in the face. It is a sledgehammer.

Heather LocklearCelebrities with broken hearts and relationships — sporting Seventh House Neptune — litter Hollywood Boulevard. One such celebrity is Heather Locklear [view chart at Astro-DataBank]. Married to and then divorced from cheating-hearts rock star Tommy Lee, she soon took up with troubled rock star Richie Sambora. What did she think was going to be different? Did she not get enough of the rock star lifestyle the first go ‘round? And why did she marry against her squeaky-clean “girl next door” image not once, but twice? A natural born Libra, with her Sun in the Seventh House, she has a driving need to be in relationship, even with a restless Aries Moon. But it is that Neptune conjunct her Mars and Mercury in Libra in the Seventh House that glossed over the issues and whispered in her ear, “This time it will be different.”

The exception that nearly proves the rule is Paul Newman, whose death-do-us-part marriage to Joanne Woodward is the stuff of Hollywood legend — except that their long-term union was built on his extra-marital affair with her, leading to the breakup of his first marriage. Hardly the stuff we would expect from a knight in shining armor.

Both these cases illustrate the need for natives with Neptune in the Seventh House to be swept away in a grand, all-consuming romance. Sense and reason –- as well as duties and responsibilities –- take a back seat to this need. In Pretty Woman, Edward and Vivian, from all outside appearances, would have a long row to hoe to a make their union work for the long term. And one really wonders how Cinderella and her Prince really did live “happily ever after,” with his overindulgent parents and her interfering stepmother. But these two stories are the work of fiction. The challenge for the native with Neptune in the Seventh House is to discern reality from fiction in their relationships.

http://sasstrology.com/2009/10/neptune-in-the-seventh-house-the-cinderella-complex.html

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Your relationship with your parents is your partnership template. When examining relationship patterns, parents are often the first subject that comes up. How you experience Mom and Dad is indicated in the natal chart. Your Sun (and Saturn) describe your father, and the condition of your Moon describes your mother. Note the phrase “How you experience…” While the natal chart reveals facts about your childhood (the love or abuse you received will show up very clearly) it is also a subjective filter.
Moon

Your Moon describes baseline needs and emotional expression, but its natal condition also describes your perception of the care and comfort received from your mother. Sign placement alone will have something to say about this, although it’s just the tip of the iceberg. Your Capricorn Moon can describe a cool, controlling mother. When siblings have Moons in different signs, it indicates their different experiences of mother. For example, Capricorn Moon has a Pisces Moon sibling. Mom may have failed to set boundaries with Pisces; the rules she insisted on for her Capricorn child somehow dissolved with Pisces Moon.

But Moon sign is only one indicator, and it paints a very simplistic picture. For a full description, you need to look at house placement and aspects to other planets. A 10th House Moon in Pisces, conjunct Neptune, suggest that you found Mom to be domineering. This is due to the Moon’s placement at the top of your chart. But she was not domineering in a typical way. The conjunction to Neptune in Pisces suggests she may have been weakened due to illness. Maybe she was an alcoholic, or suffered from depression. She may or may not have been codependent, but you felt that she needed your care. Her issues dominate your life. Any corresponding habits you have — involving surrender, helplessness, depression or addiction — will dominate your relationships. Looking at the positive side of this, perhaps you learned a tremendous amount of compassion and empathy from your mother, and these qualities rule your life.

A trine between your Moon and Pluto suggests a powerful mother. The harmony of the trine can indicate a supportive relationship with her. Let’s say you have a 2nd House Taurus Moon, trine 6th House Pluto in Virgo. Perhaps she enabled your self-esteem and security (2nd House) through her determined and insightful approach to your medical issues. Moon/Pluto in any aspect is transformative — there may have been a crisis in your childhood. Maybe you were quite ill and almost died, but she stayed by your side in the hospital, and then gently but relentlessly nursed you back to health once you came home. The resulting impact on your future relationships can be seen, as you approach them with a stability (Taurus) born from having survived the worst.

Sun

Your Sun describes your ego and conscious will, and also your experience of your father. Sign will have something to say about Dad’s qualities, but house placement and aspects fill in the complete picture. Your Sun in 1st House Aries opposite Saturn in 7th House Libra suggests that Dad played a major role in defining (Saturn) your identity (1st House). But that definition is a result of your perception of his disapproval and judgements. Perhaps he was an assertive (Aries) guy who pushed you to be your best. At least, that’s what he thought he was doing. But you experienced this as never being good enough, no matter how hard you tried. Hence, your lifelong struggles with lack of confidence and fear of failure.

The 1st/7th House axis indicates that you project his judgements onto your partners. There may be a direct correlation with how you viewed your parents’ marriage (Dad was the boss). Perhaps you project your authority onto your partner. You’re drawn to successful partners, even though success continues to elude you. The positive side of this aspect is your potential to dig in and persevere. However, this will only happen once you push past the internal voice that says you’re not good enough.

By itself, natal Saturn can also indicate your childhood experience of your father. Saturn in hard aspect to Mars often indicates growing up with physical hardship, such as extreme discipline meted out by Dad. The condition of your Saturn in general will describe how you experienced paternal authority and rules. However, Moon in hard aspect to Saturn will indicate an authoritative or repressive mother (as well as your loyalty and resentment towards her).

Sun and Moon

Aspects between your Sun and Moon can describe the state of your parents’ marriage. Again, the emphasis is on how you experienced it, which may not always reflect the actual state of the marriage. For example, you have a trine between your Sun and Moon, but your parents are divorced. And yet, they managed to put aside their difficulties and work together to raise you. This will manifest as harmony between your ego and emotions, giving you a solid approach to future relationships. You developed this by observing how your parents made it work.

Sometimes the separative aspect of a Sun/Moon opposition can describe divorced parents. But parents who remain unhappily married can also be seen in the opposition. Their tension will be translated to you, as you’re torn between opposing priorities in life. And, you may be drawn to partners who exacerbate this tension. A Sun/Moon conjunction can indicate that Mom and Dad presented a united front for you. But if that conjunction is challenged by a hard aspect to any other planet, it also indicates conflict in the marriage. Sun/Moon square Mars/Saturn suggests deadlocked arguments, and staying together out of a sense of duty (to you). As a result, you develop a set focus (Sun/Moon) defined (Saturn) by their fights. Maybe you become a defensively stubborn partner who knows what you want, but also expects the worst from relationships.

http://sasstrology.com/2016/06/finding-your-parents-in-your-birth-chart.html

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I’m getting more specific and looking at natal indicators for a parent who was literally or metaphorically not there. What’s missing from your life is shown just as clearly as what you have. The Sun and Saturn describe father, and the Moon describes your mother. As in the previous article, the planets and their conditions describe your experience of the situation.
12th House

The 12th House is a hidden area. Natal Sun, Moon or Saturn in the 12th can indicate a parent who was “hidden” from you. This may have been due to their illness, or major secrets about their life. Or, they may not have been there at all. The actual situation is less important than the 12th House quality of the absence. As the house of transcendence (and a blind spot) it can be difficult to clearly see 12th House planets. This is also an impersonal house (transpersonal). Even if the parent in question is still part of your life, you may feel like you cannot get close to them.

Moon in the 12th House might describe a mother who was severely ill. She was unable to provide the emotional nurturing and security you needed. If she spent large amounts of time in the hospital, she would have been hidden from you. Unlike the previous article’s 10th House Moon/Neptune mother (whose illness dominated your life) the 12th House mother’s illness removed her from your life.

In your adult relationships, you may be unaware of your primary needs because they were not fully developed in childhood. But one thing you do need is large amounts of privacy and alone time, because being alone feels familiar. Or, you may associate emotional security with sacrifice and transcendence, and are drawn to helping/healing professions. Too, you may question if any feeling of security is real; maybe it will all be taken away as soon as you become attached. The point is, your relationship with Mom created the experience that emotional connections are not quite real. And, your connection to her (defined by her absence) may be a blind spot that holds some insights about your adult relationships.

To work with a 12th House planet and absent parent, know that the hole in your life can become a doorway to other things. You won’t be able to reclaim what your parent didn’t give you, but that absence has put you in touch with 12th House energies. In your partnerships, and your life in general, you are profoundly sensitive, creative, spiritual and empathetic.

Pluto

While hard aspects from Pluto to the Sun or Moon can indicate a parent whose power dominated your life, it’s more complicated than this. Pluto’s association with death and complete transformation means that before its significant power can be accessed, a tremendous fear of loss must dealt with. Pluto takes away, and there is a threat that can be underlying or overt. This is key to understanding hard aspects from Pluto to the parental planets.

Hard aspects between Sun and Pluto suggest the father’s absence. Again, it can be literal (you never knew him, he abandoned you) or metaphorical (he was there physically but not emotionally). Along with this, there may have been a sense of danger or power battles associated with Dad. Whether or not the threat was real is less important than your perception of the crisis. This would have impacted your ego and conscious will (Sun). In your adult relationships, you battle to manifest yourself as a way of counteracting what was missing and threatened in childhood. On a subconscious level, you’re constantly struggling against the threat of oblivion (death). Hence your tremendous intensity, which is driven by anxiety about loss of power. Partnerships can become battle grounds, as you project the threat onto your lover.

Moon/Pluto works a bit differently, although the sense of crisis is still there. The feeling of trauma is associated with mother. There may have been a threat to your survival while you were in the womb. During childhood, Mom’s emotional or physical loss was mixed with primal survival fears. This may have been a reality, or your perception of a specific incident. The threat of being taken away from Mom (even if she was the one making that threat) created specific emotional survival skills. You develop an intense need for control, and the ability to emotionally amputate. When things get painful in your present day relationships, you clamp down (possessiveness) or amputate (cut off your feelings) as a way of preserving your safety. For a Moon/Pluto person who has not integrated the loss (or threat of loss) involving mother, painful relationship moments have a life or death quality. Meanwhile, your partner is unaware that you are subconsciously battling for your life.

With any hard Pluto aspect, know the power you’re terrified of losing is yours, and can’t be taken away. No matter what your parents did, that initial experience has gifted you with fortitude. If you don’t believe this, consider how others react to your intensity.
Saturn Retrograde

As the planet of authority, natal Saturn most often refers to the father. This sounds sexist, and it is certainly the case with some of you that mother was your primary authority. However, I have found that in the charts of most clients, the condition of natal Saturn (a patriarchal planet) describes the experience of father, unless Saturn is aspecting the Moon.

Natal Saturn retrograde (Rx) suggests the experience of father providing structure and authority has been interrupted. This can happen because Dad was not there, or he was distant. Unlike Pluto scenarios, it may not have been a dramatic issue — maybe work took up all his time. Any Rx planet is intensified. In the case of Saturn Rx, it’s almost as if you’re trying to make up for Dad’s absence by intensifying Saturn’s energy. Fear, limits, rigidity and focus may all be distorted in an attempt to create structure where there was none.

The house position of Saturn Rx will tell you more. In the 7th House, it indicates Dad’s absence has impacted your committed relationships. Maybe you project his absent authority onto your partners. Or, you freeze up and cut yourself off from relationships. If poorly handled, Saturn in the 7th can restrict your view of partnerships, as you trundle along with a commitment to someone you don’t love, or shut down in the face of challenges. Dad’s distance or absence will be a contributing factor, because your view of limits, focus and responsibility is skewed. Once you come to terms with it, the positive potential of Saturn Rx lies in your enhanced awareness of responsibility and commitment.

In any of the above scenarios (12th House, Pluto or Saturn Rx) sextiles and trines to other planets can be helpful in providing solutions. The planet making the harmonious aspect to the parent planet is the workaround or indicator of support from someone else. It’s your ability to cope, or your support system (the other parent, grandparents, siblings, friends, etc). But this doesn’t mean if you have no harmonious aspects, you’re out of luck. Any natal aspect and house position has positive potential.

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If you’ve been involved with someone with emphasized Cancer energy in her chart, you’ve probably been challenged by her moods. Sensitive yet volatile, one minute she’s hugging you, and the next she’s in sullen retreat. When dealing with the variable moods of a Cancer, it helps to understand where she’s coming from, and why she has these moods to begin with. Note that “emphasized Cancer” refers to anyone (man or woman) with personal planets (Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars) or their Ascendant/Ascendant ruler in Cancer.
Mother and Child

Cancer is ruled by the Moon, making it an instinctive sign. It’s all about needs and feelings in the moment. Strongly connected to childhood, it represents all the basics from that phase: security, food, nurturing. It is also connected to mothering, and the urge to protect, nurture and be needed. Your Cancer partner has the Mother/Child archetypes alive and well within her. One will take precedence over the other at various times, but the primal urges to care for/be cared for are always there.

Cancer is a receptive Cardinal sign, which means she reacts quickly to external stimuli. There is an impatience to get things started, even though her approach is indirect. In order to preserve her profound inner sensitivity, your Cancer partner is initially cautious, but will react almost immediately (even if you don’t see her reactions on the surface). When this Cardinal energy is mixed with instinct, the result is a tempestuous blend of moods that can shift several times a day.

To put this in perspective, remember that the Moon moves through its cycles fairly rapidly. Your Cancer partner has her own cycles. She may begin as the nurturing mother, then shift to the smothering mother. You inadvertently hurt her feelings by pulling back to get more space. Now she feels like you don’t need her. She’s hurt, so she flips from mother to injured child, withdrawing because she’s been rejected. That withdrawal won’t last long, and soon she’ll lash out. But an apology or sweet gesture from you is usually enough to soothe her, and she’s back to nurturing mother (or happy child). These cycles vary, and are strongly influenced by almost anything (the cat, the weather, what she eats, what you eat, and so on).

What Does She Need?

Know that your Cancer partner will always be emotional. The degree and intensity will depend on how self-aware she is. Cancer is a subjective sign, so she judges almost everything by its impact on her. The more cognizant she is of how her moods impact you, the better. Her level of self-sufficiency is also crucial. While she will always need to be needed, an insecure Cancer bases her validation on you. She feels helpless and depends on her relationship (the Child) or she tries to manipulate you into depending on her (the Mother). A secure Cancer offers you nurturing with no strings, and asks for nurturing in a mature, self-aware manner.

Whatever end of the spectrum your Cancer sits at, the key to getting along with her is acknowledging her needs. When she does things for you, it’s not enough to say “thanks” (although that’s a start). You must return the gesture. No matter how capable she appears to be when she’s cooking your favourite foods or rubbing your back, she requires nurturing as well. It’s your job to honor her primary needs. They could involve a certain type of intimacy, extended periods of cuddling after sex, financial stability, or a steady supply of soups and stews. But the theme is things that make her feel safe. Do not underestimate these things; they are the keys to her happiness. Also, know that her home is sacred. If you live with her, or you’re just visiting, a warm domestic environment is her number one must-have. You must respect her home, as well as the aura she’s created.

But even if you become a finely tuned needs-meeting machine, there will still be moments when she acts “illogically.” There will be random tears, outbursts of anger, moments of hurt. This is who she is, and you can’t control it, suppress it or ignore it. Your best approach is to roll with it; be there to acknowledge the mood, provide comfort, and let it flow around you (without taking it on yourself). Most of her moods vanish as quickly as they appear. But a guaranteed way to prolong her hurt or resentment is to deny what she’s feeling, or tell her she’s being too sensitive. If you do this, you are rejecting her. Cancer can worry with the best of them, so imagine telling someone with an anxiety disorder to stop worrying. It’s one of the most useless and inflammatory things you can say. If you want to soothe her, take action and make her feel safe. If that’s not possible, empathetic listening and acceptance will go a long way.

http://sasstrology.com/2015/02/the-moody-cancer-partner.html

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A first date can be exciting or excruciating. It can leave you madly hoping that this new attraction goes further (much further) or that you never see the other person again. The signs view this crucial first step in different ways, and their varying approaches are a good indicator of how they approach romance in general. Read on for a glimpse of first dates for each of the twelve signs.
Aries

Aries is after something that gets his blood pumping. Whether he takes you dancing, climbing, or into the bedroom, most of the activities will probably be impulsive. And there must be an element of challenge. Meaning, he’s turned on by the chase, if you don’t make it too obvious that you’re going to have sex with him. Or, the climb he choose pushes both of you to your limits. Bonus points if he impresses you by rescuing a stranded climber.

There will be a second date if: he’s still hungry for you, but not starving. He craves risk, but is impatient for results.
Taurus

She’s still deciding if you’re suitable for her, but there’s nothing she loves more than quietly indulgent times with someone she’s attracted to. There will probably be excellent food and a relaxed, sensual vibe. But don’t get excited — it’s way too early for sex. What she really wants is to know if you’ll be compatible with her for the long haul. The evening will not be elaborate, but she’ll have it planned it out. And you’ll both be sticking to that plan.

There will be a second date if: you check the one or two boxes on her list. It’s a basic list, but it’s non-negotiable.

Gemini

He’ll get to know you via a rapidly shifting conversation that covers every subject imaginable. Are you as interesting as you first seemed to be? He’ll ask questions and won’t focus on the answers. But if the mental connection is there, he’ll be riveted. First date sex? He may not even know if it’s going to happen. If it does, don’t assume you’ve sealed the deal. He’s a collector of new experiences, and you may just be one more experience. Or, maybe you’re the puzzle he hasn’t figured out yet.

There will be a second date if: he still wants to talk to you.
Cancer

Be prepared to share your feelings. It will be a show of faith if you match her confessions with some of your own. She wants to know if she can feel safe when she tells you (shyly) how much she likes you and how you remind her of so-and-so from her childhood. While anxiously attempting to establish a bond, she’s closely monitoring you for any signs of distaste or mockery as she moves in for that hug (literal and metaphorical). First date sex depends on how emotionally intimate the two of you have become.

There will be a second date if: she’s let you in and it feels right.
Leo

This is the perfect time for Leo to make a dazzling first impression. She’ll feel a surge of pride when she sees the love and amazement in your eyes … because you’ve never met anyone as talented and smoking hot as Leo. She’ll pull out all the stops on her appearance and to show you a good time. Whatever the date consists of, you can bet it will involve something excessively fun, romantic and expensive. Despite her outrageous display of flirting, she’s unlikely to jump into bed with you. Leo is worth waiting for.

There will be a second date if: you treat her like royalty while proving that you know how to have a good time.

Virgo

Within the first five minutes, he’s identified sixteen different things about you that need to be improved. He can help you with that. He also suspects that you’ve noticed the thing he does/has/lacks and have decided it’s intolerable. All this will be spinning through his mind while he talks with you. He may listen more than he talks, encouraging you to open up with carefully targeted questions. He’s probably too nervous to even think about sex at this point.

There will be a second date if: you check all the boxes on his intricately detailed list. But if he really likes you and you miss a few boxes, that’s ok (he can help you reach his goals).
Libra

This is Libra’s finest moment: you’re both starry-eyed and blind to each other’s imperfections. He’ll spin his sugary romance with classic displays: flowers, your favorite restaurant, and whatever else he thinks will make you happy. Everything will be so perfect, you’ll think you’ve met your dream guy. Sex is a maybe yes/maybe no proposition. He gets caught up in the moment, but if he’s really into the courtly romance thing, he might be old-fashioned.

There will be a second date if: the first date ends on a gracious yet exciting note. He loves the tingle of more to come, as long as there’s nothing awkward or unpleasant.
Scorpio

This is Scorpio’s opportunity to peel back the first layer. He’s investigating you, while showing you a sliver of his dark self. How you react to his probing questions and creepy/seductive eye contact will tell him what he needs to know. He’s already done a background check on you, but he’ll ask you these questions anyway. If you lie, it’s game over. The atmosphere will reek of heavy, immolating sex, but it won’t actually happen until he knows you can be trusted.

There will be a second date if: you’re not afraid of him, and you’re wiling to go all the way (whatever way he chooses).

Sagittarius

Do you have to call it a date? All she wants is a happy, chill get-together. Her friends may be there. She’ll invite you along to the barbecue on the beach/out-of-bounds hike/house party. There’s a chance things could get crazy, because she doesn’t do moderation. At some point, she’ll probably make a joke that’s awkward or offensive. Despite her lack of restrictions, first date sex may not happen. If it feels somehow wrong or dishonest, she’s not interested (yet).

There will be a second date if: you’re up for anything, and can laugh about the outcome.
Capricorn

He’s scoping you out as a potential partner. Hence, your underlying suspicion that this is a job interview. The entire date will be planned out, and it will be very classy. If he seems a bit formal, it’s because he’s nervous. He wants to impress you with his first-date skills, but he’s afraid this might be a mistake. What if he lets you in and you destroy him? It will take awhile for him to let his guard down, and sex will be something that happens in the distant future.

There will be a second date if: you check all the boxes on his stringent list. Few make the cut.
Aquarius

The intellectual connection will be hugely important. The venue won’t be crazy, and the activity won’t be wild. She just wants to see if you’re the one who gets her needs for independence and introversion. This is best accomplished in a quiet place where the two of you can chat. If you bore her, she’ll still be friendly. But if she’s really into you, watch for an unnerving amount of eye contact. Sex is unlikely this early in the game.

There will be a second date if: she’s still curious about you, and she detects no traces of neediness or jealousy.

Pisces

If he had his way, he’d skip over the first date and just move in with you, since you’re obviously his soulmate. But he doesn’t want to scare you off, so get ready for some dreamy moments that include wine, music, and long conversations where you and he share absolutely everything. It may be too early for sex, or it may be just the right time for sex. He’s sensitive (even a bit shy) but will go where the evening takes him.

There will be a second date if: nothing punctures his conviction that you and he were meant to be.

http://sasstrology.com/2016/08/how-each-zodiac-sign-approaches-a-first-date.html

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There are certain natal aspects associated with divorce, but that’s not the only way they can play out. The planets involved appear to be complete opposites: one deals with the disruption of rules, and the other is all about rules. What the aspects have in common is a certain response to the pressure of commitment and tradition. If you have any of the following characteristics in your natal chart, know that awareness can mean the difference between a happy marriage and divorce.

Uranus

When Uranus is in your 7th House, or makes hard aspects to your relationship planets (Sun, Moon, Venus, Mars) or ruler of your 7th House, you have a strong drive for liberation and independence. Uranus acts like an enormous surge of electricity that switches on and off at unpredictable times. Restlessness and intolerance of restrictions is a hallmark. Often, a disruptive or shocking event in childhood created the template for your adult responses. It can be difficult to reconcile this with the stability required for a successful marriage.

Uranus will express itself via the planet it touches. Sun/Uranus will trigger abrupt expressions of ego. Moon/Uranus suggests detached and unpredictable emotional reactions, plus the need for space. Venus/Uranus is about sudden attractions and difficulty making compromises. Mars/Uranus suggests unpredictable actions that can damage a relationship. In all cases, the response to the threat of loss, restriction or pain will involve an escape, courtesy of Uranus.

Venus opposite Uranus suggests an early, abrupt separation from a loved one. As an adult, there’s a feeling that when things become unpleasant, the appropriate reaction is to create distance from the uncomfortable situation. This can happen without warning, and you (the Uranus person) feel nothing. Well, you do feel something, obviously, but Uranus triggers numbness as a survival mechanism. Distance can manifest as divorce. Sometimes, Venus opposite Uranus can indicate an attraction to exciting and disruptive partners. There’s a craving for an escape from the mundane. The resulting relationship drama and divorce is the unpleasant result.

Uranus in the 7th House can project your need for freedom, and if you’re not aware of it, you can attract distorted versions in the guise of partners who shock you. While you may be the one who’s left behind as your spouse initiates a divorce (that you never saw coming), consider if there were any red flags in the early stages of the relationship. Chances are, there was something about this person that suggested a lack of tolerance for rules and commitment. People tell you who they are when you first meet them.

All natal energy is just that: energy. It’s neutral, but if it’s not directed in a constructive way, it can turn around and bite you. Everything in astrology has two sides, and Uranus is no exception. If we start from its core concept (liberation from tradition) we can see how this might be expressed in healthy — and not so healthy — ways. The key to managing this energy is to accept that, in some area of your life, you must liberate yourself. How you dealt with childhood trauma could be an issue. The next step is finding a healthy outlet, based on the house, sign and planets involved. Venus/Uranus suggests the freedom to be creative, and relate to others in a way that honors your independence. Mars/Uranus suggests a need act freely (physical action) in a way that won’t hurt others. Once you find that outlet, Uranus’ disruptive vibe is soaked up and there’s less chance of disruption in a relationship. You can become a calmer, happier person who handles relationship stress, and attracts a healthy partner — assuming you want to get married.
Saturn

Saturn is the planet of commitment, but it’s also the planet of fear and limits. In the 7th House, it can create a painful mix of intense longing for commitment and fear of being hurt. Your issues with authority, restriction and denial can be projected onto partners, so you end up with someone who is distant and controlling. Or, someone you feel safe with but don’t really love. If the relationship is not built on a mutual exchange of authority, love and happiness, divorce is more likely. Saturn in hard aspect to the relationship planets or ruler of the 7th House can also trigger these issues, but I’ve seen divorce scenarios more often with 7th House Saturn.

People google “natal Saturn in the 7th House” and come up with all sorts of horrendous articles on their “destiny” of unhappy relationships. This does not have to be the case. 7th House Saturn just means you must be aware of what you’re projecting. Go back to those Saturn themes: authority and restrictions. Take a look at the partners you’re drawn to. You’ll attract distorted versions of Saturn if you don’t own your authority in a relationship, or acknowledge your fears of being with someone you feel passion for. If you settle for the dependable partner that you don’t love, it’s a good bet that at some point things will fall apart. If you allow your partner to take control and make all the decisions, you’re putting your happiness in their hands. That never ends well. Saturn in the 7th says that you, and you alone, are responsible for your happiness in your marriage.

http://sasstrology.com/2016/09/natal-indicators-of-divorce.html

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Relationship astrology or “synastry” explores both the bonds that unite couples as well as the conflicts that cause strains in relationships. Sun-Moon and Venus-Mars aspects are very popular in romantic synastry readings: The former shed light on potential emotional connections and the latter are all about passion and chemistry. But if you want to add an extra layer of understanding to relationship analysis, you would do well to invest some time in looking at nodal connections in synastry.

The nodal axis speaks of the trajectory of a soul’s growth. While the South Node represents the skills a person has mastered in the past, the North Node describes the current learning task. Some people ascribe karmic significance to the nodes and believe that one person’s planets touching the other’s nodal axis indicates a karmic link. If you subscribe to this belief, then someone’s planet touching your South Node shows a past-life connection. The planet involved reveals the nature of the past relationship: Venus conjunct the South Node points towards a past-life lover; the Moon conjunction may indicate a maternal figure; and Jupiter, a teacher or a benefactor.

People often feel magnetically drawn to a person whose chart is linked to their South Node. This linkage confers a feeling of familiarity that is hard to resist. David Beckham’s Venus in Gemini is exactly conjunct Victoria Beckham’s South Node. This is what he says about their romance in Both Feet on the Ground: An Autobiography: “My wife picked me out of a soccer sticker book. And I chose her off the telly… It felt straight away like we’d always been meant to be together.”

North Node links are also powerful. Since the North Node is the energy or the lesson that a person needs to learn, these connections are believed to be stronger compared to the South Node when it comes to predicting the longevity of relationships. The person whose planet aspects another’s North Node is like a teacher pulling them toward their future personal evolution.

Bill Clinton’s Taurus Moon is conjunct Hillary’s North Node and her Descendant. Her stellium in Scorpio makes Hillary an intense woman and her Pisces Moon indicates great emotional sensitivity. For her, Bill’s emotionally steady and down-to-earth Taurus Moon is like the proverbial Rock of Gibraltar on which she can lean in times of turmoil. But more than that, this aspect of his personality is something that she needs to emulate if she is to grow as a person. North Node bonds, since they are future-oriented, are a contributing factor in relationships that endure.

Significant relationships, both platonic and romantic, are often marked by nodal ties between charts. So whether you are already in a relationship or thinking of embarking on one, look to see what the nodes are doing. Understanding these linkages will add another dimension to your insight into the relationship’s dynamics.

http://sasstrology.com/2009/10/nodes-in-synastry-an-introduction.html

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I just got this request. I love requests, so please, keep them coming.

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Some of us have it. Some don’t. Some people like it. Some don’t, although I can’t understand why.

Let’s see what those lucky few have that make people throw themselves at their feet.

1. Lilith Conjunct the Ascendant—Always, always sexy ( and likes it)

2. Venus Conjunct Mars—-This is the Willie Robertson aspect. Like his politics or not, he is muy caliente. On a personal note, I have a friend who says he has to peel off the chicks. He has Mars conjunct Venus, exact.

3. Adonis Conjunct the Ascendant—There is something about him that takes one’s breath away—Woooosh. Did I become mush or what?

4. Eros Conjunct the Ascendant—He can look like a gorilla and still be a chick magnet.

5. Lilith Conjunct the MC—Very sexy but does not like it. Wants to appreciated for her brain. Go Figure.

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I don’t care who you are but relationships are hard. Of course, as with all traits, some people have it harder than others. Let’s see why this may occur.

1. Neptune in the 7th House
Neptune fogs what it touches. In this case, the area of relationships and HOW to navigate them may be unclear.

2. Uranus in the 7th House
Uranus is a….well, I don’t like to swear, but if there is one planet that kicks the derrieres of human beings, it is Uranus. Uranus electrifies what it touches and may make it UNSTABLE. Uranus in the 7th House may do a “blender” number on relationships. When I use the word “blender”, it is that thing that makes smoothies.

3. Pluto in the 7th House
Pluto can be a drama queen. Picture a teenage girl in love. She goes up, up, up. She goes down, down, down. She is “oh so depressed”. She is “oh so happy”. *sigh* That kind of high drama is not conducive to a stable relationship.

4. Venus square Uranus
Venus is love. Uranus can make for instability in that which it touches. Hence, the square may make for a person who finds it very hard to commit.

5. Moon square Uranus
In this case, the emotions may not be on an even course( to put it mildly). This is a very hard square. It may make for excessive worry. It may make for an electric kind of mind that will not shut down i.e what is called the monkey mind.
This aspect does not impinge on relationships directly, but more so for the fact that the person, himself, may suffer a great deal.

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Each person has emotional/mental struggles. Being human is hard. Being human and having to put up with other humans is hard *sigh* However, there is great disparity in HOW hard this is for each person.

1. Mercury Square Uranus
I have seen this aspect wreak havoc in the lives of people. Uranus in hard aspect is one of the hardest things one can have in the chart. Uranus in square with Mercury can make for a mind that races. That mind may race with worry. That mind may feel very obsessed with controlling the environment. It is through no fault of the native that his mind may feel like his worst enemy. If I had to sum up this aspect, it would be a “racing monkey mind that is, always, seeking to bite one in the derriere”

2.Mercury oppose Uranus

Mercury oppose Uranus is not as hard as the square. The mind may still race. However, the native may be able to escape by pulling away completely, such losing oneself in a creative endeavor, such as music. The native may be able to escape through hobbies, such as reading(my fave hobby), exercise or travel. However, when he returns, the mind may resume it’s monkey madness. However, being able to stop it for awhile does help a great deal.

3. Neptune square Mercury
This native may have a hard time seeing the world as it is. We, each, see the world through our own lens.Each person sees reality with some twists. However, the native with the Mercury/Neptune square may have a much harder time eschewing deceptions and illusions. This is not his fault. Neptune/Mercury in a square makes facing reality very hard.

4. Sun conjunct Uranus
The good news to the aspect is that the native is brilliant. The bad news is that his mind may be his worst enemy. The racing monkey mind comes to roost here.The closer the conjunction, the harder the struggle. Each degree matters a great deal.Also, The father may have been unsafe or erratic in some way.

5. Neptune conjunct Mercury

Stephen King, my fave author, has this but it is wide. In this case, one wants a wider conjunction. In the case of the close conjunction, the native may have a hard time distinguishing that which is real versus from that which is his imagination. Mercury conjunct Neptune is a classic aspect for the person who may fudge the truth i.e lie.

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This subject has so many more possible choices. I will do several articles on this, if you would like. It seems as if every person has pain. However, some people do have a greater dose. The more painful aspects one has, the more pain.

1. Retrograde Chiron
The native with retrograde Chiron will have had to recycle” pain. By recycle, I mean play it over and over again before one can, hopefully, discharge it, to some degree. The nature of the Retrograde planet is a recycling. I liken it to going into a maze and going around and around until one can, hopefully, find a door out. One could, also, think of going round and round on a carousel.
I have this aspect and do feel as if pain has done the wash and spin cycle, a time or two.

2 Dejanira (157)Conjunct the Moon

This is the single most difficult aspect in the chart, in my opinion.The closer the aspect, the more painful. I have, always, seen severe abuse with this aspect, usually sexual abuse. The personality seems to fragment, as well. Very, very sad. Again, remember how important the orb is. With an asteroid, the widest orb I would accept is 3 degrees and the trait would be more ambient, as well.

3. Uranus Square Mercury
The mind attacks the person badly. Each person has a mind that attacks him, I think, unless I am the only one. However, the native with a close Mercury/Uranus square has a very difficult time with all manner of mental struggles such as obsessive thinking, worrying, anxiety, striving for perfection and other such difficulties.

4. Chiron Conjunct the Sun

If this aspect is close, the self esteem of the native seems to be eroded. The father may have been abusive, as well.

5. Chiron Conjunct the MC

The only thing worse than pain is pain that is seen by others. That which conjuncts the MC will be seen by the greater society. You may be known by that trait. Chiron is pain, so Chiron conjunct the MC angle would be some sort of pain that the world sees.

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I see beauty and grace as being different from being “sexy”. Beauty, grace and sexiness can exist together, but they may not, as well. My last article was on the topic of “effortless sexuality.” These natives are sexy if they are wearing a garbage bag. It is rather rare.

Now, we will discuss a different dimension of beauty.When I think of beauty and grace, I think of Princess Grace. She was beautiful and graceful, but one would not call, really, her sexy. I will, probably, get people who will argue that Princess Grace was sexy. I am not disagreeing. However, it is not the primary image with which she presents herself.

The primary planet to play a role in beauty and grace would be Venus. The first thing we would look for would be Venus aspects to the Ascendant, particularly the conjunction, sextile and the trine. The square and opposition do confer beauty, but it may have more of an “edge” to it. Think James Dean.

Now, onto the list.

1. Venus trine the Ascendant

This aspect exemplifies beauty and grace. If Princess Grace did not have it, she should have.

2. Adonis(2101) conjunct the Ascendant

Adonis inspires the adoration of others. One can be beautiful and bland. One can be beautiful and sensational. In the latter case, people cannot get enough information on you. I would put Princess Diana in this category. I don’t know if she had this aspect, but she could have.

3.Aphrodite(1388) Conjunct the Ascendant
Aphrodite is the Greek name for Venus, which is a Roman name. Hence, the results would be similar. The asteroid would need a smaller orb because it is less potent than a planetary body. I would allow three degrees for Aphrodite and six for Venus.

4. Sappho(80) Conjunct the Ascendant
Sappho is Eros with a book in her hands. Think Marilyn Monroe in her glasses.Sappho is sexy, but it is more of a cerebral or arty kind of sexiness. This may not be a “beauty and grace” aspect, per se, but it is a good asteroid to know, so all your Virgos, restrain yourselves

5.Bella(695) Conjunct the Ascendant
Bella means beauty. Hence, these natives may be seen as very beautiful.

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Five Aspects Showing a Hard relationship With the Mother

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1. Chiron Conjunct the Ascendant
This is one of the hardest places to have Chiron. People see your pain. Many people react with violence and hatred when they see the pain of others. In other words, it brings up the bully in many people.(The ones who won’t admit it are the worst) Hence, Chiron conjunct the Ascendant natives can “bring out” the worst in others, through no fault of the native.

2. Chiron conjunct the Moon
With Chiron conjunct the Moon, there may have been great pain with the mother. This may extend to a disconnection to the native’s own feminine side( and each person has one) Chiron conjunct the Moon natives may feel their own emotions are very painful, as well. Hence, they may try to avoid them.

3. Chiron Square the Moon

This native may not know WHY he feels such emotional pain. This native, likely, will have had a very hard relationship with the mother. The square may render his feminine/emotional side of himself very difficult to access.The native may have problems with women, throughout his/her life, and not know why, as well.

4. Moon Conjunct Echo
I have Echo square Saturn, so I know of what I speak. Remember, there is no native who understands the aspects like the one who has them. Hence, pick the minds of people to understand astrology. Saturn makes for a struggle in that which it conjuncts. Hence, Echo conjunct Saturn may struggle with voicelessness. Echo may struggle, mightily, to access her feelings and to express them. Echo is programmed to be an appendage of someone else. Echo conjunct the Moon is harder than Echo conjunct the Ascendant because the Moon is more of an integral part of the person. Let me give an example, a heart attack would be worse than a gash on the hand.

5. Eris Conjunct the Ascendant
Ever know someone who is exceedingly annoying but had no idea about it? Think Steve Urkel. Eris makes for annoyance in that which it touches. Eris is an erratic energy. It has the vibe of a buzzing mosquito, a dog incessantly barking or a baby crying. I know I have my beloved Dan who thinks Eris is a warrior like Pluto, but that has not been my experience. My experience is what I share with you.

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ARIES – Self-absorbed, ego-driven, short attention span, no consideration for other people’s feelings. (Wait, other people exist?!) Please learn how to spell or think before you talk. You are famous for quickies and curved penises. Nuff said.

TAURUS – You are extremely tight with money, hopeless romantic couch potato, most likely self-sabotaging themselves and relationships, possibly have addiction problems. Also, by the time you finish a sentence I will…*yawns* …Zzzzzzzzzzzzz….Never mind.

GEMINI – Dude, you talk soooo much. Also, you are prone to self-destructive behavior when you are bored. You seem to have ADD, but you just bored a lot. Cheating and lying comes naturally in long-term relationships but you complain that you still sooooo bored.

CANCER – I will never be good enough for your Mom. Your mood swings are turn-offs and being clingy is just not cute. Flaky and emotionally manipulative are not nice characteristics to have. Did I mention I am not your Mom?

LEO – It’s just not good for a man to be sleeping/lounging whole day. You’re a sucker for compliments and praises but I’m not sure if I can keep up with massaging your ego whole day. Don’t worry though, there are women out there who will not mind being used and abused by you.

VIRGO – Love to micromanage people, and “fix” them but your life is chaos and drama. You are overly critical with people, anal retentive and keep low paying jobs. You love to complain, gossip and spread rumors. Although you think you have your ducks in a row, you are constantly punishing yourself, except when you are sleeping around with random people or stalking your exes.

LIBRA – You are flaky and superficial. Sure you are charming and sensitive but you are not famous for being loyal or reliable. You are addicted to your senses, so you are a sucker for beauty, smells and appearances. Possibly you think you’re the best thing a woman can have, but some of us have ambition in life.

SCORPIO – Pathological liar and secretive to the bone. They will never ever figure you out but once they do, they will be disappointed. You are possessive and always in your feelings. You are revengeful and love money a bit too much. You are a loner at heart with trust issues.

SAGITTARIUS – You are too busy camping, running, hiking or feeding sharks. When you are not on an adventure you are at the bar trying to figure out how many shots you can do before you pass out. You are famous for one-night stands because you are afraid of commitments. Also, you think you are very interesting and funny but people around you are busy trying to have an actual life.

CAPRICORN – You are a supernerd who take himself very seriously. You sweat a lot.
Your possibly the biggest pothead of the zodiac and it upsets you if others have a different opinion from yours. You marry for money and have questionable sexual desires. You will end up alone because you sabotage even the best relationships.

AQUARIOUS – It is impossible to keep in touch with you, as you change your circle of friends to suit your ever-changing agenda. You know nothing about loyalty. You are detached and secretly insecure.
You seem intelligent but you think you are better than other people. You feel better about yourself because you do charity but in reality you know little about helping others. You are prone to sexually transmitted diseases and you are not good at lying.

PISCES – You live in dream-land. The idea of good time to you is getting shit-faced. You live in your head and people think you are weird loner. You always have to be sooooo deep and always deserve so much better. You are guilty of ignoring phone calls and messages for days because you don’t know how to confront people and stand up for yourself.

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Mars/Saturn——-will indicate a disinterest in sex

Mars/Uranus —— may have an inconsistent libido and experiment with sex.

Mars/Neptune-——- wants to merge and become one in romantic bliss, as sex is a spiritual experience.

Mars/Pluto-————will want sex every day and will have trouble surrendering “all” of themselves to another, as they prefer the “control” position.

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Anger can be explosive or stuffed. I am a Mars in Cancer, so I know of what I speak, when I talk about “stuffed”

Let’s discuss some anger aspects. If you like this, I will do more articles because there are many anger aspects.

1. Mars in Cancer
We, Mars in Cancer natives, are famous for stuffing our anger. We, often, put it into the organ related to Cancer, which is the stomach. I am on my way to get something for my stomach, as I write *sigh* Maybe, I could get rid of my stomach problems if I just punched someone?

2. Pluto Square Mars
This native may look like he will murder you if you step on his toe. I am sure you know what I mean. Give him a wide berth. If he wants anything, surrender it, whether it be your girlfriend or you Big Mac. This native may explode suddenly. On the other hand, he may hold it until he cannot hold it anymore and then, explode. Either way, why expose yourself?

3. Mars Conjunct the Moon
Mars conjunct the Moon is very easily irritated.He may explode over small irritants, rather than let the volcano build up and then, who knows what? This native may have a subtle(or overt) hostility to women. although he may not admit it.

4. Mars in Libra
One may think is is a strange one to put on this list because Libra balances and balances and balances until he goes crazy. Strong emotion has to go somewhere. This native may not explode. He is too nice for that. Where it goes, I am not sure. You tell me.

5. Mars conjunct Pluto
This aspect is classic for explosive anger. He could go from zero to a hundred in a second. Hence, if you see him angry, run fast. You may not have much lead time.

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